Divorced? Proven Ways To Stop Your Next Relationship From Ending Up Like Your Last
I know how painful it is to have a relationship fall apart and to wonder if there’s anything you could have done differently to stop it from happening.
After your divorce, it’s really important that you look back and analyze what went wrong in an objective way where you’re not blaming yourself. Instead, you’re using the past as a source of information. This is a critical step in your healing process because if you’ve never analyzed what went wrong in your marriage, you risk getting involved with the same type of person again or making the same type of mistakes again.
This is why up to 60 percent of all second marriages fail and as many as 75 percent of all third marriages fail.
I don’t want that to happen to you. I want you to find the type of love you deserve. And when you get that love, I want you to keep it.
That’s one of the reasons why I wrote the book The Indestructible Relationship. A lot of my friends were getting divorced at the time. And I was having no luck at love.
I began to wonder why is that some couples stay married forever and other couples get divorced. What is the difference between the long-lasting couples and the ones whose marriages end?
So I decided to get deep in the minds of couples who had been together a long time and had a loving, warm relationship. As a journalist with more than 600 articles published in places like The Huffington Post, YourTango, and The San Jose Mercury News, I had the skills to really dig deep and find out exactly what long-lasting couples do to forge an unbreakable bond.
But I wanted to do more than interview just your ordinary couple. I decided to interview couples who had gone through some of the most stressful experiences you can imagine. Death of a child. Bankruptcy and foreclosure. Cancer. Infidelity. Becoming paralyzed a month after the wedding. Having their home damaged in a natural disaster. I wondered, why is it that these couples stayed married when couples who had gone through far less got divorced?
What I discovered was that these couples had certain secrets for keeping their love alive no matter what happened in their lives. They used specific skills. For them, these skills came naturally.
The Secrets of Couples Whose Marriages Last a Lifetime
It’s possible your marriage didn’t last because your ex was a sociopath or narcissist. Or a serial cheater. But it’s more likely your marriage ended for reasons less dramatic but still very damaging. It’s entirely likely that you weren’t using the skills that long-lasting couples use naturally. I know I wasn’t using them in my own love life. What’s more, I was also letting stress from my job poison the way I dealt with my dates.
But once I discovered the relationship-building secrets of the strongest couples and started using them, I went from having relationships that fell apart to finding a wonderful, warm, loving, creative, and funny fiancé.
What if I told you that you can dramatically increase your chances your next marriage lasting forever if you discover the same secrets as I discovered when I interviewed the couples?
You can get your hands on the secrets to having a relationship that lasts forever when you buy my book The Indestructible Relationship: Support and Understand Each Other Better During Grief, Illness and All Life’s Stressful Moments.
The book is not your typical self-help book. I wrote it as a collection of inspirational stories that show rather than tell how the couples used their relationship-building secrets. I wrote the book this way because I want to give you more than just advice—I want to give you the gift of hope and inspiration.
I want show you how to believe in love again and to believe deep down and without a doubt that you can have a warm and loving relationship just like the couples in The Indestructible Relationship.
Here’s what you’ll discover in the book:
• The secrets of couples whose relationships last a lifetime. If you don’t know these secrets, your own relationships will continue to fall apart.
• The number one factor that can destroy your relationship in times of stress.
• How learning about other couple’s crises can make your relationship stronger.
• A surprising reason why some men have affairs—and the one time you should forgive your partner for cheating.
• A simple strategy you can use to see your partner’s point of view and head off arguments before they start.
• An effective way to argue that resolves conflict rather than hurts feelings.
It’s your destiny to have a loving relationship that lasts forever. But until now you might not have known the secrets for forging a long-lasting bond. Now you have those secrets at your fingertips simply because you decided to buy The Indestructible Relationship. And when you do meet the right one, you’ll know exactly how to keep him or her around forever.
Author of The Indestructible Relationship
Winner of The 2012 EPIC award for best non-fiction