The Indestructible Relationship

THE INDESTRUCTIBLE RELATIONSHIP
WINNER OF THE 2012 EPIC EBOOK AWARD FOR NON-FICTION AND FINALIST IN THE 2011 GLOBAL EBOOK AWARDS

The Indestructible Relationship Mission
To help couples who are stressed, grieving or traumatized find peace and hope and to help them establish a deeper connection with their romantic partners during and after times of trouble. And to help divorced and single people understand why their last relationship crumbled and to help them find everlasting love.
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ARE YOU A COUPLE WHO WANTS TO FEEL MORE AT PEACE DURING STRESS OR WHILE GRIEVING?

OR ARE YOU DIVORCED OR SINGLE AND WANT TO KNOW WHY YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP FAILED?

OR PERHAPS YOU JUST LIKE INSPIRATIONAL STORIES OF PEOPLE WHO OVERCOME ADVERSITY.

THEN THE INDESTRUCTIBLE RELATIONSHIP IS A MUST-READ BOOK.

READ ON TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT THE BOOK AND HOW IT CAN ENRICH YOUR LIFE. BUT FIRST, HERE’S WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT THE INDESTRUCTIBLE RELATIONSHIP. . .

“I read the first few pages of this book and I was hooked. I was fascinated by the ways these couples kept their relationships strong. When I think about how many couples I know who divorce, it amazed me how these couples in the book managed to stick together through thick and thin. I learned a lot from these poignant stories.”

–Ann LaRoue, Mother of two in Florida

“To win the EPIC eBook Award the work must be riveting, entertaining, well-constructed and written in a manner to keep the reader interested–not an easy task. And it must shine above all others. Top quality works and best sellers are entered and only the cream of the crop even make it to the finals. To be chosen a winner signifies the author’s place at the top of his or her profession.”

–Desiree Holt, the EPICon-2012 Chair about The Indestructible Relationship winning the 2012 EPIC eBook Award for non-fiction.

“As a grief and trauma specialist, I work daily with people who are attempting to find ways to move through a difficult life experience. One of my major roles is to help them identify how the tragedy will impact their primary relationships and to then find ways to maintain their relationships. In The Indestructible Relationship, Kim Pryor describes true life stories of couples who not only maintained but strengthen their relationships as a result of finding ways to face and work through their tragedies. She concludes each chapter by outlining in bullet form the strategies each couple used to reinforce and strengthen their relationships. In doing so she provides an excellent road map for other couples. The Indestructible Relationship is definitely a resource I will suggest to those I work with. Thank you Kim Pryor for creating, The Indestructible Relationship.”

–Dr. Jane A. Simington, PhD. of Taking Flight International. Professor, Therapist, Acclaimed Keynote Speaker and Award-winning Author of Setting the Captive Free: Your Guide to Soulful Change and Transformation.

“As a family law lawyer, mediator and former state court magistrate, I have seen thousands upon thousands of couples who have thrown the towel in to adversity; and a few who have gone to the brink and made it back. This book provides insight and inspiration for any couple challenged by the slings and arrows of life, who find themselves on the brink, but who want to make it through to the other side.”

–Steven P. Combs, Attorney, Jacksonville, Florida

“The Indestructible Relationship is a great concept for a book. After the death of our child, I found it was very helpful to talk with, or read about, others who had been through a similar experience. It is very reassuring to know much of what you go through is normal, although it certainly doesn’t feel like it at the time. I liked the use of interviews with couples in The Indestructible Relationship. It made the subject matter more real and kept it from being ‘dry instructional.’”

–Rachael, Mother whose child died from sudden infant death syndrome

“Life isn’t tidy. Ordinary and extraordinary experiences can put relationships to the test. By sharing real stories, The Indestructible Relationship provides lessons and insights that will help couples find strength and encouragement to help them address their own challenges.”

–Pamela Tsigdinos, Award-winning author of Silent Sorority: A (Barren) Woman Gets Busy, Angry, Lost and Found

“With so many marriages ending in divorce, it’s a relief to read about couples who kept their relationships together, despite so much tragedy and hardship. The advice given is right-on and practical; a “must read” for anyone who is in a tenuous relationship.”

–Dawn Murphy, Mother of two in Reno, Nevada

“I recently purchased The Indestructible Relationship and read it through in two settings. Great read. So informative and insightful for these hard times, whether you’re in crisis or not. I recommend it to everyone.”

–Carol Davis Luce, best-selling novelist, author of Night Game.

The Indestructible Relationship has become a bestseller on The Kindle in the Disaster Relief, Cancer, and Physical Impairments categories. It’s also available for the Barnes and Noble Nook, the iPad and other mobile devices in the Scribd store or as a pdf ebook on this website.

MORE ABOUT THE BOOK AND HOW IT CAN HELP YOU AND YOUR HONEY FEEL MORE AT PEACE AND LESS STRESSED. . .

Dear Friend,

If you’re stressed and in a relationship, that means the effects of any anxiety or tension you’re feeling are doubled. Perhaps you snapped at your partner after a hard day at work. Or after staying up all night with the sick kids.

Or perhaps you’re divorced or single and your last relationship fell apart and you want to understand why.

The sad thing is that outside factors can be extremely damaging to our relationships. Sometimes, we think there’s a problem within our romantic relationship when instead, the problem is really that we’re stressed from having too much work to do or because we’re dealing with financial problems. Or exhausted from being the caregiver to an elderly parent or from dealing with a chronic illness or cancer. Or perhaps you’re going through something horribly heartbreaking and traumatic, such as the death of a child, and the grief you’re feeling is weighing the both of you down.

No matter what you’re going through, the stress you’re feeling may be masquerading as unhappiness with your partner. It’s important to determine: Are you really unhappy with the relationship? Or are you just stressed, tired or grieving?

It becomes a vicious circle because once you snap at your sweetheart, he or she likely snaps back, further intensifying the stress you’re already feeling. This isn’t what you want….but sometimes it just happens and when it does you’re sorry it did. You can’t take those hurtful words back. But what if you could stop any stress-related arguments from happening to begin with? What if the two of you knew the right skills to let stress roll off your shoulders?

How can you stop stress from damaging your romantic relationship? How can you coast through daily challenges or endure heartbreaking trauma without using your significant other as an emotional punching bag? How can the two of you actually grow closer after a stressful or heartbreaking experience?

To answer these questions, I interviewed couples who went through some of the most stressful experiences anyone can experience—cancer, the death of a child, miscarriage, chronic illness, infidelity, the death of a parent, having their homes damaged in a wildfire and flood, bankruptcy and foreclosure and becoming a paraplegic a month after the wedding.

Yet, these couples grew closer after their experiences. They knew the secrets for getting along even in times of trouble, the secrets to feeling more loved, supported and understood during stressful and heartbreaking moments.

My eBook, The Indestructible Relationship: Support and Understand Each Other Better During Grief, Illness, Catastrophic Loss and All Life’s Stressful Moments, shares all the wisdom I learned from these strong couples, wisdom that will help you and your sweetie stay calm during stress and argue less. The Indestructible Relationship was a finalist in the 2011 Global eBook Awards and is a finalist in EPIC’s 2012 eBook Awards.

The Indestructible Relationship has become a bestseller on The Kindle in the Disaster Relief, Cancer, and Physical Impairments categories. It’s also available for the Barnes and Noble Nook, the iPad and other mobile devices in the Scribd store.

YOU’LL FEEL MORE AT PEACE WITH LIFE AND EACH OTHER

This relationship advice ebook serves as a road map to help your relationship make it through life’s most stressful moments. The techniques in this ebook can help the two of you learn easy, practical, real-life ways to grow closer to each other and to develop a deeper sense of intimacy. In the book, you’ll discover:

• The number one factor that can destroy a relationship in times of stress.
• Why you don’t have to worry if your grieving partner sometimes wants to grieve alone.
• How a natural disaster such as a flood, wildfire, tornado or hurricane can change a relationship.
• The most important way you can help your spouse through his or her grief.
• How learning about other couple’s crises can make your relationship stronger.
• The one emotion to avoid no matter what you’ve been through—a child’s death, a natural disaster, cancer, bankruptcy or foreclosure.
• An easy way for long-time lovers to fall passionately back in love with their partners.
• How one very important and easy change in your attitude can revitalize a marriage in trouble.
• A surprising reason why some men have affairs—and the one time you should forgive your partner for cheating.
• A simple strategy you can use to see your partner’s point of view and head off arguments before they start.
• A common trait of couples who survive a crisis with their partnership intact. In fact, without this one trait, your relationship will very likely not make it through the toughest of times—much less day-to-day struggles.
• An effective way to argue that resolves conflict rather than hurts feelings.
• The biggest mistake you can make when listening to your partner’s feelings about the traumatic event you just went through.

Although there is advice from experts at the end of the book, much of the advice comes from couples who are veterans at coping with catastrophe and stress by virtue of having lived through some of the most awful experiences anyone can suffer—and their unions thrived in the process.

TEN INSPIRING COUPLES…. TEN AMAZING, INSPIRATIONAL STORIES OF HOPE, LOVE AND TRIUMPH OVER TRAUMA…. EASY WAYS TO MAKE YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIP INDESTRUCTIBLE AND TO FIND PEACE DURING TIMES OF STRESS, ILLNESS AND GRIEF

In The Indestructible Relationship ebook, you’ll meet:

• Meryl and George, whose only child Danny died of heart failure at the age of 11. As time passed, Meryl wanted to visit Danny’s grave every week. George wanted to visit less often. At first, this caused conflict. You’ll read about how the couple resolved their disagreement as well as other challenges they faced—such as what to say to acquaintances who asked if Meryl and George have children.

• Barb and Wayne, who faced a terrible tragedy less than a month after their wedding day. Wayne, paralyzed in a football accident and now a quadriplegic, relied on Barb for nearly everything. She was exhausted and at first Wayne couldn’t see what his constant requests were doing to his wife. You’ll read about how they reworked their romantic partnership in a way that made Wayne understand the crisis belongs to both of them.

• Melissa and Andrew, who spent weeks of sleepless nights sandbagging the rising river. As they struggled to save their home, they had to shed their fear of dependency and ask their neighbors and each other for help.

• Tasha and Richard, whose baby Faith died just a couple of weeks before the due date. Richard didn’t grieve as strongly as Tasha did, and she needed to accept that he didn’t bond with the baby like she had when she carried her in her womb.

• Jessica and Larry, who cope with Larry’s Crohn’s disease and the strain it places on their life and marriage. During Larry’s acute episodes, when he was too weak to work, Jessica would sometimes look at her husband bundled up under the covers as she dragged herself out of bed, resentment tainting her empathy. Why do I have to go to work, she wondered, when he can sleep in? At first, Jessica practically bounced off the kitchen walls, slamming cups against the counter, banging the cupboard doors loud enough to awaken her husband. She realized her lid was ready to blow and she needed to talk to Larry about her feelings. The book shows how the couple overcame the tension.

• Louise and Martin, who were terrified when Louise was diagnosed with breast cancer. But when Louise started talking about her fear or her anger, Martin simply couldn’t go there. She felt like she wasn’t receiving enough validation from her partner. So she took other steps to fulfill her emotional needs.

• Anne and Nathan, whose home sat in the path of a wildfire. When the couple rushed home to save their kids, Cheryl saw a side of her husband she’d never seen before.

• Peter and Gloria, whose relationship survived Peter’s affair with another woman. Find out why Gloria forgave him and the explanation for his infidelity.

• Gail and Curtis, who foreclosed on their home and filed bankruptcy after Curtis lost his job. The couple picked up the pieces and kept their union alive during a highly stressful time. One of the reasons why their marriage survived: they were able to avoid one of the most toxic factors in any relationship.

The couples in this ebook know what you’re going through. They’ve been there. They know what it’s like when someone close to you tells you to move on when you’re not ready to yet. They know what it’s like when work stress or financial burdens put pressure on your relationship. They understand what it’s like when your partner wants you to cope with your illness in his or her way rather than your own. They know what it’s like to see a side of your spouse you’ve never seen before, a side you may or may not like.

NOT YOUR TYPICAL RELATIONSHIPS ADVICE BOOK

The Indestructible Relationship is a different kind of relationships advice book. It shows the real-life coping skills of couples who have been through difficult times. The book does this by dramatically portraying each couple’s crisis as if you were reliving the event with them and then showing you the techniques they used to weather the storm—techniques you can use in your own relationship. Although some advice is specific to each particular crisis, a lot of the techniques are applicable to the day-to-day obstacles we encounter in our relationships and can be applied to struggles that we all experience.

After each of the strong spouses leave the spotlight, the book profiles two couples whose marriages crumpled under pressure so that you can compare and contrast the successful couples with those whose relationships failed.

At the end of the book, there are exercises as well as suggestions from experts on how to use the techniques in the book in your own life in order to become closer to your significant other and forge an even more loving bond based on a deeper degree of intimacy.

PURCHASE THE INDESTRUCTIBLE RELATIONSHIP—And I will donate 25 cents of each ebook sold to The Compassionate Friends, the nation’s largest self-help bereavement organization for families who have experienced the death of a child.

I wanted to do something good when I wrote this book, something that would give back to the world. Consequently, I’m now donating 25 cents from each The Indestructible Relationship ebook purchased to The Compassionate Friends, to help them in their mission to help families suffering the heartache of a child’s death.

FREE BONUS

Anyone who purchases the pdf ebook version of The Indestructible Relationship on this website will receive absolutely free the 10-Page bonus report, “Secrets of the Richest People: How You Can Put Yourself in the Money-Making Mindset.” The report is indispensable in these trying financial times. If you buy the book on Amazon, just send me an email at kim@indestructiblerelationship.com with your receipt and I’ll email you the free bonus.

Click above to purchase The Indestructible Relationship in pdf ebook format and receive your free bonus. You can also purchase the ebook for your Kindle by visiting Amazon.com or visit the Scribd Store to view the book on Barnes and Noble’s Nook, the iPad and other mobile devices. (UK customers can click here to purchase The Indestructible Relationship for the Kindle).